He's just not that into me....

I’ve seen the movie, “He’s just not that into you”. Yesterday I bought the book on a friend’s recommendation and read it all. It should be every woman’s bible. I know I have high standards and that I deserved to be loved and treated right and this book just confirmed it for me. I learned that lesson after I devoted 5 years of my time, my love and devotion to a guy who at the end of the day cared more about himself and his needs then he would ever about mine. It also, confirmed that we woman are crazy and will think of any excuse or reason as to why a guy is not giving us the attention we need and that he WILL eventually come around. I don’t know why we torture ourselves. Well I do because I’ve been there, but not wanting to be lonely and feeling we will never find the man of our dreams really is no reason to not be happy with a guy. This book although a little frightening is very liberating. No longer will I try and convince myself that the guy I like will come around or listen to my girlfriends tell me to just give him more time, because you’re great and he will come around eventually. I’m surrounded by great relationships. I know what they look like and I know that it is what I want too. I just need to give it time and enjoy my life; hopefully one day there will be a guy out there that loves me the way I deserve to be loved, who returns my phone calls and makes me feel special. Until that time, I will date, but I will not let a guy lead me on or believe that he is the one if he really is just not that into me.

Anxiously waiting

My Doctor’s appointment is this week on Friday. I wish it were Friday already. I have a feeling this week is going to go by very slowly. I just want to know if and when he can perform the surgery and I hope I like him and feel comfortable with him to do it. If not I don’t have any other options unless I want to spend $16000.00 on the Lap Band and at the end of the day I don’t feel confident with the long term results it has to offer. Anyway, I guess time will tell. Is it Friday yet???

On another note, everything else in my life is going very well. I love my job and the direction it’s taking, I’m proud of myself for buying my condo on my own and surviving the first 6 months, I have wonderful friends and family and in general just love my life. However, something is missing…all my friend are getting engaged, buying houses with there significant other, getting married and having babies. I want that. For some reason I’ve always felt like I never deserved that or that I never needed that, but I do…

WOW!!!

Wow, that was fast. I had my appointment with my GP yesterday just to discuss the possibility of weight loss surgery and I just got a call with an appointment time to see the VSG surgeon in a couple of weeks. This might all happen for me in less time then I though.

Update...

I had my appointment today with my family doctor. He is supporting me in my decision to have weight loss surgery and will be referring me to a new Doctor, who has just opened a new clinic for Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy’s. I’m am anxious, nervous and excited all at the same time. I know I’m making the right decision to pursue this drastic measure and feel that I am in the right stage in my life to handle whatever comes my way.

And so it begins again, but this time hopefully with a better outcome...

The struggle of my weight continues. I have recently made the decision to look into gastric bypass. I know that it is a paramount decision for my life, but it is that or nothing at this point. Everything in my life is going well, I’m happy, I’m happy with the direction that my life has been going thus far and I feel that I no longer suffer from depression. It has been a long while since I have felt that down and I truly do feel I have conquered that part of myself. I’m in a good place in my life to make such a tremendous decision and know that I’m going to be able to handle it and all that it will bring for me.

I wake up every morning feeling I live in a fat suite, one that I can just unzip out of it. I feel like this was never the body I was supposed to have. I’m a vegetarian and have been for over 3 years, I always opt for the stairs instead of the elevator. I want to be more active, but regrettable my weight often holds me back. I don’t know how it came to be that I got to have this body, as I have been overweight ALL of my life and although I know this is not going to be easy and in actual fact will probably be the hardest thing I will ever do in my life, I’m ready now to make the commitment.

Now at this point I do not know if it will happen. All I know is that I have made the decision to go forward and pursue it. I have a doctor’s appointment this week and I’m hoping my doctor will support my decision. I will be using this forum to keep log of the events and to put down in writing the experience of it all.

Good news all around...

So it's been a long time, I know. A lot has happened since my last post. I went to Dominican Republic in March and I had such a good time. When I came back I decided to join Dr.Bernstein and I've lost another 20 pounds. I'm now down over 50 pounds since last June.

My mom finished her treatments the week after I came back from my trip. It got really bad, her skin burned off and she was in a lot of pain. It was one of the hardest things I have ever seen my mom go through. None of us were prepared for how bad it would get. Anyway, she is back to herself now and she recovered really fast after her last treatment. My mom and dad went to Cuba 2 weeks after her treatments ended. I think it was really good for both of my parents.

Latest update...

I still have not gone back to Jenny. I'm really sick of the food, but I have managed to keep most of the 40 pounds off. I'm thinking about maybe trying Dr. Bernstein in April. It's cover by my benefits, but I'm just not sure. I really just want to drop the weight fast, I already know I can keep it off and I really think that if I lost a lot more weight I would be more active, because it wouldn't be so hard. Anyway, we will see.

I'm really hoping to go down south, the last week last of March. I'm just waiting on a friend of mine to get the time off and then we are going to book. I can really use a hot, relaxing vacation.

As for my mom, she is in the middle of her radiation. It's a lot harder then she thought it would be. I've switched my shifts to 12-8, so that I can drive her every morning downtown for her treatments. I hope this is it, I'm not sure how much more she can go though. I mean really how much can one person take in a life time. She deserve a break.